Don E. Gibbons, Ph.D., NJ Licensed Psychologist #03513
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The New Center for Counseling and Psychotherapy, LLC, is located at 675 Route 72 E, Manahawkin, NJ 08050,
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Saturday, March 5, 2016

Clinical Effectiveness vs. Getting Smarter by Degrees

 There once was a preacher named Fiddle
Who refused an honorary degree.
He didn't mind being calle Fiddle,
But he wouldn't be Fiddle, D.D.!

Research has shown that treatment outcomes are not determined by what the certificate or degree says on the wall, or by the discipline within which the certificate or degree has been conferred,  but by the effectiveness of the rapport which one develops with one's clients. In the words of Irving Yalom, who is world-famous for his work with groups, "It's the relationship that heals. It's the relationship that heals. It's the relationship that heals. My professional rosary!"

I once began a session with a client using a quote from another poem, :"The Walrus and the Carpenter," by Lewis Carroll, which began,  "The time has come, the walrus said, to talk of many things. . ."

"Ooh, that's my favorite poem!" the client exclaimed. She had a horrible childhood and had spent most of her life in therapy as a result. But she had persevered in seeking treatment. Eventually, she married, and raised a daughter who was about to graduate from college and start a family of her own. The reason she had been able to do so, I believe, is depicted in the rest of Lewis Carroll's poem, which can easily be seen as a symbolic depiction of the manner in which successful therapy overcomes life's inconsistencies, absurdities, and contradictions.

The sun was shining on the sea,
Shining with all his might:
He did his very best to make
The billows smooth and bright--
And this was odd, because it was
The middle of the night.

The moon was shining sulkily,
Because she thought the sun
Had got no business to be there
After the day was done--
"It's very rude of him," she said,
"To come and spoil the fun!"

The sea was wet as wet could be,
The sands were dry as dry.
You could not see a cloud, because
No cloud was in the sky:
No birds were flying overhead--
There were no birds to fly.

The Walrus and the Carpenter
Were walking close at hand;
They wept like anything to see
Such quantities of sand:
"If this were only cleared away,"
They said, "it would be grand!"

"If seven maids with seven mops
Swept it for half a year.
Do you suppose," the Walrus said,
"That they could get it clear?"
"I doubt it," said the Carpenter,
And shed a bitter tear.

"O Oysters, come and walk with us!"
The Walrus did beseech.
"A pleasant walk, a pleasant talk,
Along the briny beach:
We cannot do with more than four,
To give a hand to each."

The eldest Oyster looked at him, But never a word he said:
The eldest Oyster winked his eye,
And shook his heavy head--
Meaning to say he did not choose
To leave the oyster-bed.

But four young Oysters hurried up,
All eager for the treat:
Their coats were brushed, their faces washed,
Their shoes were clean and neat--
And this was odd, because, you know,
They hadn't any feet.

Four other Oysters followed them, And yet another four;
And thick and fast they came at last,
And more, and more, and more--
All hopping through the frothy waves,
And scrambling to the shore.

The Walrus and the Carpenter
Walked on a mile or so,
And then they rested on a rock
Conveniently low:
And all the little Oysters stood
And waited in a row.

"The time has come," the Walrus said,
"To talk of many things:
Of shoes--and ships--and sealing-wax--
Of cabbages--and kings--
And why the sea is boiling hot--
And whether pigs have wings."

"But wait a bit," the Oysters cried,
"Before we have our chat;
For some of us are out of breath,
And all of us are fat!"

"No hurry!" said the Carpenter.
They thanked him much for that.
"A loaf of bread," the Walrus said,
"Is what we chiefly need:
Pepper and vinegar besides
Are very good indeed--

Now if you're ready, Oysters dear,
We can begin to feed."
"But not on us!" the Oysters cried,
Turning a little blue.
"After such kindness, that would be
A dismal thing to do!"

"The night is fine," the Walrus said.
"Do you admire the view?

"It was so kind of you to come!
And you are very nice!"
The Carpenter said nothing but
"Cut us another slice:
I wish you were not quite so deaf--
I've had to ask you twice!"

"It seems a shame," the Walrus said,
"To play them such a trick,
After we've brought them out so far,
And made them trot so quick!"

The Carpenter said nothing but
"The butter's spread too thick!"
"I weep for you," the Walrus said:
"I deeply sympathize."

With sobs and tears he sorted out
Those of the largest size,
Holding his pocket-handkerchief
Before his streaming eyes.

"O Oysters," said the Carpenter,
"You've had a pleasant run!
Shall we be trotting home again?'
But answer came there none--
And this was scarcely odd, because
They'd eaten every one.

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Orgasms Induced by Hypnotic Suggestion

I once attended a workshop taught by the late Martin T. Orne, who was the editor of the International Journal of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis. A medical student told him that a friend had said, "I gave my wife fifteen orgasms last night, and you can do it too!"

"To his wife?" I asked, and the room exploded in laughter.  Later, however, someone asked Dr. Orne how many people in the general population are capable of responding to almost any suggestion they are given. "One or two percent," he replied, with the verbal equivalent of a shrug.

In the following You Tube video, Brian David Phillips demonstrates how easy it is to induce both multiple and full body orgasms in a sufficiently willing and responsive subject, merely by suggesting that they are going to take place.

Are these responses genuine, or was she merely play-acting? Most professional observers would probably agree that in all likelihood, this volunteer is part of the one or two percent of hypnotic subjects that Orne was talking about, who are capable of actualizing virtually anything that is suggested to them.

Some lay hypnotists have made a great deal of money putting on workshops and selling tapes over the Internet purporting to show you how to do this yourself. As you can see, however, Phillips isn't doing anything but suggesting what is about to take place. Hypnosis, in regard to this or any other suggestion, provides both the opportunity and the occasion for people who are able to use their imagination in an "Alice-in-Wonderland" fashion to go ahead and do so. All the rest depends upon the subjects' ability and willingness to comply with the instructions and suggestions he or she is given.


Gibbons, D. E., & Lynn, S. J. (2010). Hypnotic inductions: A primer. in S. J. Lynn, J. W. Rhue, & I. Kirsch (Eds.) Handbook of clinical hypnosis, 2nd ed. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, pp. 267-291.

Gibbons, D. E. (2000). Applied hypnosis and hyperempiria. Lincoln, NE: Authors Choice Press (originally published 1979 by Plenum Press).

Sarbin, T. R., & De Rivera, J. (1998). Believed-in imaginings: The narrative construction of reality (memory, trauma, dissociation, and hypnosis). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.