|Here's how to get off the merry-go-round!|
1. Albert Ellis has put together a list of ten commonly-held beliefs about ourselves, the world, and the future, which prevent us from experiencing life to the fullest because they set us up for failure and disappointment ahead of time. They are all false, but many of us are inclined to at least occasionally believe them, at least part of the time. You can get rid of these irrational ideas by learning how to recognize and eliminate them.
2. The Greek philosopher Epictitus said, "Men are disturbed not by events, but by the views which they take of them." This is a list of inaccurate ways of looking at things, which might be clouding your view of the world.
3. We don't choose our feelings, and we don't choose our motives. But we can choose how we look at things, and our feelings and motives will change along with them. We can do this by going back to the time when we were acting, thinking, or feeling in ways which were unpleasant or got us into trouble, and deciding how we can look at the situation differently. Here is a set of instructions on how to manage depression, anxiety, anger, addiction, and obsessive thoughts.
4.. Robert Louis Stevenson said, "The world is so full of such a number of things, I am sure we should all be as happy as kings." Here is a list of activities which can help to strengthen the bond between you and your friends or romantic partner.
5. This free downloadable ABC Worksheet from www.smartrecovery.org can become your daily companion for taking control of your life in matters large and small. You can use it to make motivational and behavioral adjustments on everything from paying your bills on time, to stopping smoking, or deciding on which career path to follow. (If you don't have the necessary Adobe Acrobat Reader, you can also download it free of charge.)
It first asks you about the causes of something you would like to change in your life, and then asks about the emotional consequences which were the result, your beliefs about what happened, what beliefs could be substituted for the ones which brought about the unpleasant results, and how those changed beliefs make you feel. You can write on the form itself, clearing and changing it as often as you like. Then, when you are finished, you can either print it out or save it as a text file, using a different form for each problem you would like to work on. To re-examine it or re-do each form that you have completed, just call up that particular file and continue to modify it as you progress. It could prove to be extremely helpful if you are willing to give it a try!
There are several other helpful aids to life management in their tools and homework and articles and essays sections.
- Panic Attacks
- Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
- Social Anxiety
- Body Dysmorphia
- Obsessions and Compulsions
- Additional downoads for record-keeping are also available.
- There is also a free online self-help course and other materials.