Don E. Gibbons, Ph.D., NJ Licensed Psychologist #03513
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The New Center for Counseling and Psychotherapy, LLC

The New Center for Counseling and Psychotherapy, LLC, is located at 675 Route 72 E Manahawkin, NJ 08050. Telephone us at(609)709-2043 and (609) 709-0009.Take Mill Creek Road South, just off Route 72, on the road to Beach Haven West.After about 400 feet, turn right into the office complex of Greater Coastal Realty. Then turn right and go past the Lyceum Gyn. Continue on to the Prudential Zack Building. We. are the last office at the end. We accept Medicare and most other major insurance.Weekend and evening office hours are avalable.

Sunday, August 30, 2015

The Secret"of "The Secret"

The central theme of the book, "The Secret," is that we create our own reality by "the law of attraction." If we send forth positive thoughts, then we attract positive events to us; and if we send forth negative thoughts, then we attract negative events. But if we really do create our own reality by sending forth positive or negative thoughts, then this effect should be apparent not only in individuals, but also in groups, in historical trends, and in society as a whole. Therefore, we should be able to examine the validity of "the law of attraction" by examining the degree to which it operates in these other areas of experience. I have listed below the comments which my friend Roy Hunter reports as having been made to individuals who are suffering from cancer and other maladies, and taken the liberty of constructing a reply to them.   
  • What did you do to attract cancer in the first place? What about all those people who get cancer because they are living in an area where there is a high level of carcinogens in the environment?
  • You have a disease consciousness. The Black Death killed between 75 and 200 million people, between 1348 and 1350. What could all those people have been thinking that caused such a plague to so suddenly come upon them?
  • You must have a karmic debt to pay off.  If you read The Diary of Anne Frank, you will get a good idea of the kind of person she was. Now consider the fate of Ann and others like her as they covered with lice and dying of hypothermia in a Nazi concentration camp during World War II. What did they do to deserve this?
  • Why can’t you create enough faith to be healed? Age is a wasting disease. And the survival rate for this particular disease is zero.
  • Don’t you know smoking will kill you? With 99% of the same genes as our closest simian cousins, the chimpanzees, and over a century of experimental research to back them up, most psychologists agree that short-term pleasure is often more important than long-term consequences in determining our behavior, particularly when it comes to matters of addiction.
  • Fat people are out of control. An African journalist recently stated that her greatest surprise in coming to the United States was to discover that in America, thin people are rich and fat people are poor, since in her own country the reverse is true. If this is the case, how can weight be a function of one's personal discipline rather than one's culture?
  • You have a poverty consciousness. The CIA World Factbook lists the United States as twelfth in per capita income, behind such nations as Norway and Hong Kong, yet most Americans are inclined to think of themselves as the richest nation in the world. If we create our own reality, why are we not in first place?
  • "Get out of the victim trap!" Tell the survivors of Stalinist tyranny who were imprisoned in Siberia that they shouldn't have been thinking so negatively about their situation that it caused them to wind up there.
  • Why did you create this problem? The CIA World Factbook lists the United States as fiftieth from the top in infant mortality compared with other nations. Explain to the parents of the babies who died because they were not given better medical care what they or their children did to create this problem.
  • What is God punishing you for?  If God is keeping quiet about His reasons, then what is the point of punishment?
  • If “The Secret” is not working for you, then you must be doing something wrong.  Maybe so!  On a recent radio interview show featuring a leading theoretical physicist who was commenting upon the latest discoveries in his field, a questioner asked him about the "law of attraction." He forcefully criticized the promulgators of this belief for misleading people, and assured the caller that the universe simply does not work that way. Perhaps what people who subscribe to this false doctrine are doing wrong is believing in "The Secret" in the first place.
Of course there can be negative and self-destructive attitudes within the personality which interfere with the successful accomplishment of a goal, and which contribute to the development of  psychosomatic conditions! But their operation and effects are well-documented in the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

A more narrow, focused investigation of psychic abilities is the subject of ongoing research by the Parapsychological Association.  "an international professional organization of scientists and scholars engaged in the study of psi (or 'psychic') experiences, such as telepathy, clairvoyance, psychokinesis, psychic healing, and precognition.  The primary objective of the PA is to achieve a scientific understanding of these experiences." It also appears possible that some of these phenomena may be focused and directed using hyperempiria, or suggestion-enhanced experience, or by a method described by Claude Bristol in his book, The Magic of Believing, which is available free in audio format on this blog.

One might well ask why the mind works this way, I cannot answer you from science, because in science the question "why" is unanswerable
Basically, it is not enough simply to have thoughts and images, as advocated in The Secret. You also have to have intention. In order to believe it, you have to believe in it. And in order to believe in it, you can have no room for doubt in your heart. A tall order, but IMHO that is "the secret."


Almost every major religion has its saints and mystics, who have reportedly been capable of miraculous works through perfect love in the name of their faith,  To cite Christianity as one example,"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." (John 4:11) Outside of an often elusive religious context, the regular practice of guided meditation in hyperempiiria is one of the ways to eliminate our own fear through strengthening the power of unconditional love. 

How to Make Your Recorded Voice Sound Better on the Internet

For making a recording of your own voice to make available online, many people are currently using and recommending the free, open-source software called Audacity, which, despiite its initially formidable appearance, is as easy to operate as a $30 recorder that you could purchase at a drugstore.
(There is even a conference about Audacity coming up in England this July -- not bad for a free, open-source program!)

All the control buttons are in the upper left-hand corner and if you mouse over them it will show you what they do. And if you have background noise or a cheap microphone and cannot afford to rent a recording studio, not to worry.  Here are two brief You Tube videos on how to fancy up the presentation, once you get your recording done. The first one shows you how to make two simple adjustments using Audacity to produce major improvements in your presentation. In the second one, the same presenter shows you a few additional choice tricks. After using them, I no longer sounded like Donald Duck with tonsillitis. (Kermit the Frog, perhaps?)








Thursday, August 27, 2015

How to Listen to Your Inner Healer

Listening to your inner healer
Here is a script for concluding the hypnotic session wich  I have found useful  for enabling the client to share in the outcome in a variety of constructive ways,

You love being hypnotized! Each time you enter hypnosis, you enter it more rapidly and more deeply. Each time you enter hypnosis,, your Best Me -- the person you are becoming --  gives you more strength to work out your issues, in many different ways and on many different levels, some of which you may already be aware of, and some of which you may not yet realize until they actually happen 
Now we will return from these higher realms of being to the everyday state of consciousness and the time and place from which we left.  
You will obtain everything you desired from this session, regardless of whether or not it was actually included in the suggestions you were given, and regardless of whether or not you were consciously aware of all of them youtself.  
 Because time passes so much more slowly in hypnosis., even though you may only have been hypnotized for only a few minutes, it can seem as if we had been gone for an eternity, and the benefits you derive from the experience will be correspondingly increased.
Regardless of how much or how little you actually remember of these higher and more powerful levels of reality, you will always recall these hypnotic sessions with fondness, even as you look forward to the next opportunity to return to them with ever increasing anticipation; for you will obtain from each session everything that you hoped to get from it, regardless of whether or not it has been specifically suggested to you.
The sound of my voice will have much the same enjoyable effect as if you were in hypnosis. For this reason, whenever you can safely do so, you will be able to listen to recording of nt voice ob the computer and it will have just the same effect as if I were actually there, hypnotizing you right then.
Tonight, you will be able to fall asleep easily, and you will have a pleasant, refreshing sleep from which you will awaken rested and refreshed, and feeling wonderful; for your Best Me is always with you, guiding your path in the way it should go. Know who you really are. Be who you really are.
 By the time I get to the count of five, you will be able to open your eyes, feeling wonderful. Your mind will be clear and alert. You will easily be able to concentrate on anything you have to do, and you are going to feel better than you have for a long, long time!
One. Getting ready to open your eyes now.
Two.
Three. Almost ready.  
Four. . . .
Five. You can open your eyes now, feeling wonderful


 

 Print Sources 

Gibbons, D. E. (2001). Experience as an art form. .New York, NY: Authors Choice Press.

Gibbons, D. E. (2000). Applied hypnosis and hyperempiria. Lincoln, NE: Authors Choice Press (originally published 1979 by Plenum Press).

Gibbons, D. E., & Cavallaro, L (2013).. Exploring alternate universes: And learning what they can teach us. Amazon Kindle E-Books. (Note: It is not necessary to own a Kindle reader to download this e-book, as the Kindle app may be downloaded free of charge to a standard desktop or laptop computer and to most cell phones.)

Gibbons, D. E., & Lynn, S. J. (2010). Hypnotic inductions: A primer. in S. J. Lynn, J. W. Rhue, & I. Kirsch (Eds.) Handbook of clinical hypnosis, 2nd ed. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, pp. 267-291.




Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Don;t Pay Through the Nose for information!

How will we know when we are on the right track In assisting our clients? the words of +Michael Ellner, The path that the people who beat the odds take does not seem to be as important as the way they walk the path that they have chosen. This is based on extensive experience assisting people with life-threatening diseases and conditions and assisting people living with medically unexplained syndromes and symptoms like chronic pain, FMS, IBS and CFS. What they do — does not seem to be as important as how they do what they do… The people who do what they do with a happy heart, peaceful mind and playful spirit seem to have the best outcomes regardless of what they are doing.

And how can therapists help them to get that way? Irving Yalom, famous for his group work, said, "It's the relationship that heals. It's the relationship that heals. It's the relationship that heals. My professional rosary." As witch doctors and medicine men have known since the dawn of pre-history, If you construct an ideology that people accept, and if you relate well enough to your clients to get them to the point that Ellner just described, it doesn't matter much what you do. Regardless of whether or not the Academic community points out that there is no scientific support for your claims , you will still be regarded in some quarters as a success. In reality, however, there is no need to spend hundreds of dollars a workshop which is primarily intended to whet your appetite tp sign up for the next one in the series, in order to eventually qualify for a pricey "certificate" which has no legal standing, and no meaning to people who have not themselves embarked on a similar training quest .

"Your Withdrawals Happily Accepted!"
Many people spend a great deal of time and money going from workshop to workshop, either to perfect their therapeutic techniques or to experience the latest trends in psychotherapy for themselves, when the success of a therapeutic intervention actually depends more on the client than it does on them. Since most of these highly-touted and pricey procedures work at least some of the time, this creates a "partial reinforcement effect" which causes people to try even more advanced workshops, in the hope that they will eventually get it perfect -- in the same way that a laboratory rat who is only rewarded occasionally will work even harder than one that is rewarded all the time. 

 It looks impressive, of course, if there is a certificate on the wall stating that you have been certified by the Great Poo-Bah or Swami Rama-Ding-a-Ling (and preferably both!). But most of us are probably not going to know who they are. In addition, empirical research has confirmed that while psychotherapy in general is effective, the relationship between therapist and client is a more important contributor to a successful outcome than whether the degree on the wall (if there is one!) indicates that the therapist has completed a Bachelor's, Master's, or Doctoral program, or the particular field in which the degree happens to be granted, or the theoretical orientation of the therapist. As Irving Yalom famously said, "It's the relationship that heals. It's the relationship that heals. It's the relationship that heals. My professional rosary!"  

With the coming of the Internet, we are going through an information revolution which is more far-reaching in its implications than the ones which occurred when steam power replaced the horse, and electricity replaced steam. I am not arguing against continuing our professional education; but one thing ought to be clear when our nearest google prompt is a lot closer and cheapter than our nearest ATM prompt. Don't pay through the nose for information! The totem poles are on fire!